In Laura Moriarty’s first novel, The Center of Everything, ten-year-old Evelyn always has trouble with her skinny old neighbor.
“My mother says that when Mrs. Rowley is mean, which is generally the case, it is really because she is just unhappy, and who could blame her with a husband like that, and Travis always in so much trouble. She says this is really the only reason people are ever mean–they have something hurting inside of them, a claw of unhappiness scratching at their hears, and it hurts them so much that sometimes they have to push it right out of their mouths to scratch someone else, just to give themselves a rest, a moment of relief” (60).
Remember this when someone is mean to you – and walk on by.
Rich Karlgaard is the publisher at Forbes; his latest book is Team Genius: The New Science of High-Performing Organizations (2015). In the July 26,2016 Forbes article, “Economy’s Tragic Mismatch” he notes:
“A few weeks ago I spoke to a trade group of construction company CEO and CFOs. I thought their top concern would be taxes, regulations, the slow-growth economy or, perhaps, the 2016 election. Wrong. It was the lack of skilled labor. . . ”
For the rest of the article, go to <http://www.forbes.com/sites/richkarlgaard/2016/07/06/economys-tragic-mismatch/#1a7732125746>
Good-paying jobs are out there. Especially if you go to a community college, you can get the needed skills in a relatively short time and for not that much money. Check out such possibilities.
Aloha, Barry & Renée
Some people complain that in-person relationships are being strained because many people spend much time on their cell phones, iPads, computers, and other such screens.
Here is another reason to limit screen time (or at least do it consciously).
In her August 2016 column, “For Your Health: Text neck troubles,” Jane Langille, reports:
“Dr. Kenneth Hansraj, a Costco member and chief of spine surgery at New York Spine Surgery & Rehabilitation Medicine, in Poughkeepsie, New York, wondered why a 30-year-old male patient still suffered from neck pain long after Hansraj had surgically repaired a herniated disk in his back. The man was unable to return to work in spite of months of physical therapy. As a follow-up exam, the source of his pain was crystal clear: He admitted to spending four hours a day playing Angry Birds on his iPad and showed his doctor how he looked down at the screen. . . ”
Click on the link below to see the rest of this article and tips to help prevent “text neck.”
From page 68 of The Costco Connection, printed page 65: http://www.costcoconnection.com/connection/201608?pg=NaN#pgNaN
Please, sit up, sit up – bring your devices to eye level – every time.
Aloha, Barry & Renee
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“By cultivating attitudes of friendliness toward the happy, compassion for the unhappy, delight in the virtuous, and disregard toward the wicked, the mind retains its undisturbed calmness” – Sutra [a rule or aphorism in Sanskrit literature] # 33 of Patanjali.
In the commentary on this Sutra, Sri Swami Satchidananda notes, “Whether you are interested in reaching samadhi [a superconscious state] or plan to ignore Yoga entirely, I would advise you to remember at least this one Sutra. It will be very helpful to you in keeping a peaceful mind in your daily life. . . . try to follow this one Sutra very well and you will see its efficacy. . . . This Sutra became my guiding light to keep my mind serene always.”
Patanjali says that there are four kinds of people: the happy people, unhappy people, the virtuous and the wicked. “At any given moment, you can fit any person into one of these four categories.
- A happy person. Even four thousand years ago there must have been people who were not happy at seeing others happy. It is still the same way. Suppose somebody drives up in a big car, parks in front of her huge palatial home and gets out. Some other people are standing on the pavement in the hot sun getting tired. How many of those people will be happy? Not many. They will be saying, ‘See that big car? She is sucking the blood of the laborers.’ We come across people like that; they are always jealous. When a person gets a name, fame or high position, they try to criticize that person. ‘Oh, don’t you know, her brother is so-and-so; she must have pulled some strings somewhere.’ They will never admit that she might have gone up by her own merit. By that jealousy, you will not disturb her, but you will disturb your own serenity. She simply got out of the car and walked into the house, but you are burning up inside. Instead, think, ‘Oh, such a fortunate person. If everybody were like that how happy the world would be. May God bless everybody to have such comfort. I will also get that one day.’ Make that person your friend. That response is missed in many cases, not only between individuals but even among nations. When some nation is prospering, the neighboring country is jealous of it and wants to ruin its economy. So we should always have the key of friendliness when we see happy people.”
- The unhappy person. “Maybe he is suffering from previous bad karma, but we should have compassion. If you can lend a helping hand, do it. If you can share half of your loaf, share it. Be merciful always. By doing that, you will retain the peace and poise of your mind. Remember, our goal is to keep the serenity of our minds. Whether our mercy is going to help that person or not, by our own feeling of mercy, at least we are helped.”
- The virtuous person. “When you see a virtuous man [or woman], feel delighted. ‘Oh, how great he is. He must be my hero. I should imitate his great qualities.’ Don’t envy him; don’t try to pull him down. Appreciate the virtuous qualities in him and try to cultivate them in your own life.” We would do well to follow these examples:
- The wicked. “We come across wicked people sometimes. We can’t deny that. So what should be our attitude? Indifference. ‘Well, some people are like that. Probably I was like that yesterday. Am I not a better person now? She will probably be all right tomorrow.’ Don’t try to advise such people because wicked people seldom take advice. If you try to advise them you will lose your peace.
I still remember a small story from the Pancha Tantra [an ancient Indian collection of interrelated animal fables in verse and prose] which I was told as a small child.
One rainy day, a monkey was sitting on a tree branch getting completely drenched. Right opposite on another branch of the same tree there was a small sparrow sitting in its hanging nest. Normally a sparrow builds its nest on the edge of a branch so it can hang down and swing around gently in the breeze. It has a nice cabin inside with an upper chamber, a reception room, a bedroom down below and even a delivery room if it is going to give birth to little ones. Oh yes, you should see and admire a sparrow’s nest sometime.
So, it was warm and cozy inside its nest and the sparrow just peeped out and, seeing the poor monkey, said, ‘Oh, my dear friend, I am so small; I don’t even have hands like you, only a small beak. But with only that I built a nice house, expecting this rainy day. Even if the rain continues for days and days, I will be warm inside. I heard Darwin saying that you are the forefather of the human beings, so why don’t you use your brain? Build a nice, small hut somewhere to protect yourself during the rain.’
You should have seen the face of that monkey. It was terrible! ‘Oh, you little devil! How dare you try to advise me? Because you are warm and cozy in your nest you are teasing me. Wait, you will see where you are!’ The monkey proceeded to tear the nest to pieces, and the poor bird had to fly out and get drenched like the monkey.
This is a story I was told when I was quite young and I still remember it. Sometimes we come across such monkeys, an if you advise them they take it as an insult. They think you are proud of your position. If you sense even a little of that tendency in somebody, stay away. He or she will have to learn by experience. By giving advice to such people, you will only lose your peace of mind. . . .
So have these four attitudes: friendliness, compassion, gladness and indifference. . . . Nothing in the world can upset you then. Remember, our goal is to keep a serene mind” (p. 54-57).
from: The Yoga Sutras of Patanjali – translation and commentary by Sri Swami Satchidananda
In this time of noisy political rhetoric, we would do well to remember Sutra #33.
“We create transformative, resilient new realities by becoming transformed, resilient people,” says Krista Tippett in her new book – Becoming Wise: An Inquiry into the Mystery and Art of Living.
The book is inspiring and thought provoking.
Happy reading (and thinking).
Photo: from a street exhibit in Sydney, Australia
Our Israeli friend Ruthi who we’ve known since teaching in China just went home after a great experience teaching English to monks in Sri Lanka.
Now I’ve got your attention. This had to be the title for this blog entry, especially after I saw the number of “likes” my monks on a bus photo got on Facebook. Here it is:
Travelling to school
Anyway, how to sum up this crazy experience of a month teaching Buddhist monks in Bhiksu University, Sri Lanka? Was it what we had expected? Of course not! Things never are. On the plane over to Sri Lanka we again looked at each other wondering whether we were totally insane. How bad could it be, we thought? We had spoken via Skype to the Reverend Mediyawe Piyarathana, the English lecturer in charge of the program, and we had been interviewed by Paul Ellmes of http://www.giveafigvolunteering.com, who also lived there in the city, and seemed to be a nice, friendly chap. Just for a month….. what could go wrong, we thought. Well…
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Here’s a blog from an anthropologist who knows Bali well. Thanks, Anne.
Once upon a time anthropology was about what happened in faraway places. The way we found out about those places was by going there and hanging out and keeping our eyes and ears open. This was called “fieldwork” because the “field” we were studying was somewhere else. I’ve never been very comfortable with these words and now that the everything and everybody is moving everywhere I suspect the whole idea of “field(work)” may cause more problems than it is worth.
Nevertheless, all research happens somewhere, and when we are there we may experience everyday life in different ways than when we are “at home”. Sometimes, especially when I’ve just arrived, I write little stories which I send home to students, friends and family. What I think they reflect are a first, existential layer of the ethnographic experience that anthropology gets built out of.
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“When [Generation Xer] Tyrone thinks about planning for his future, he imagines investing in a big retirement fund [that everyone can use]. He wants to help build a world in which all people are taken care of, no matter how much or how little money they have.
‘The future’s totally scary,’ he says. ‘Social Security doesn’t take care of people, our resources are increasingly privatized, the U.S. is the only industrialized country without universal health care . . . .
All you have to do is read an article about climate change to get totally freaked out about the future. But that’s the psychology of capitalism, right? Make everyone feel so insecure that we hoard all the resources we can and forget how to share or take care of each other. I’ve noticed that often, the more money people have, the more scared and alone they feel. Real safety requires interdependence; wealth so often takes that away from us’” [ my emphasis] (130).
- from Courtney E. Martin’s Do It Anyway: The New Generation of Activists, Beacon Press, 2010.
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After World Sprints near Brisbane, crew mate Audrey and I flew off to explore. We landed in Cairns – a popular destination for setting off to the Great Barrier Reef. Barry, John, and I were there about 13 years ago and spent three days on a boat over the reef. The experience was fantastic! Tour boats – but in greater numbers – still go out.
The Cairns harbor has developed with an esplanade lined with outdoor cafés, up-scale restaurants, and galleries. Now some boats serve great seafood feasts on board. I barely recognized what had been a touristy, but small town on the mangrove coast. We had fun then – and we had fun now. This time, I learned more.
The Cairns Esplanade is especially wonderful: you’ll see playgrounds for children, fitness equipment for adults, two public swimming pools, bike and walking paths along the beautiful waterfront. You’ll even find quiet spots for anyone wanting to stop and strum a guitar.
Cairns has birds and fish and marine life to enjoy. If you are there at sunset, thousands of birds swoop down to roost, somehow missing everyone – but not by much.
For me, one of the best experiences in Cairns was going to the Tjapukai Cultural Center.
It’s a 20-year old site, but Barry and I didn’t know about it when we were there years ago, and Audrey and I wouldn’t have found it this time except that Tom and Denise and some of our other Kihei paddlers had gone. Tjapukai seems to be advertised only in conjunction with the crocodile feeding experience – which is not something I fancy. When you go to Cairns, do the dives and zip lines and all the activities, but also find out about the rich history of the original people. I highly recommend the Tjapukai cultural site.
The indigenous Aboriginals of Australia have one of the oldest living cultures on Earth.
However, when British Captain James Cook arrived on Australia’s shores in 1770, the country was described as uninhabited, despite the fact that an estimated 700,000 people were living there. Like many other colonized places, the original culture was not respected for its rich practices that allowed the local people to live in harmony with their land.
Tjapukai celebrates some of the knowledge and skills of the Aboriginals. After a Cirque du Soleil light and sound show about the Aboriginal history, our friendly guide, who is proud of his heritage, shared some of their practices. We saw a “bayngga” – an underground oven – much like our Hawaiian “imu” that allows meat and vegetables to be steamed; we got to sample them later: delicious. Also, much like our Hawaiian “ʻaumākua” spirit guides, Aboriginals have special names connected to nature. ʻ”Dingo,” the young woman who helped us make bracelets out of seeds and other found objects and showed us symbols we could use in painting boomerangs, was given her name by her father.
Audrey and I also took the medicinal/herb tour and were introduced to plants that have helped Aboriginals survive and thrive in what we consider a very harsh land. Australia, you probably know, is infamous for its deadly animals, including the Box jellyfish, Irukandji jellyfish, the European honey bee, bull sharks, Eastern brown snake, saltwater or estuarine crocodile, Sydney funnel web spider, and the Blue-ringed octopus. The plants in Australia can kill you too. But the Aboriginals have learned how to use them well.
For instance, the Aboriginals make use of the “Stinging Tree” or “Suicide Tree.” If you get close to it and happen to touch it, your skin will burn for months! Its stinging hairs cover the whole plant and deliver a potent neurotoxin. Incredibly, the Aboriginals discovered that its fruit is edible if the stinging hairs that cover it are removed.
We were given pointers about the circular breathing necessary to create the haunting music of the didgeridoo.
The boomerang was fun too. Again, we would have gone hungry if it were up to us to use a boomerang to hunt.
We were impressed by the Aboriginal skills, art, and knowledge.
The overal message of the Tjapukai was about the Aboriginal expertise in living in harmony in a sustainable way – for over 50,000 years. We saw the richness of their art and myths and saw examples of Aboriginals who have become famous in politics, art, music, sports, and business.
Art at the Tjapukai Cultural Center:
Although the atrocities were mentioned, they weren’t the focus of the cultural center perhaps because many of the tourists coming to Tjapukai would not know the Aboriginal history at all.
Our Aboriginal guides at the Tjapukai are proud of their art, their culture, and their survival.
Going to the Tjapukai Cultural Center made me curious for more information.
I learned that Aboriginal culture in Australia has almost been destroyed.
Immigration to Australia was restricted almost exclusively to whites from the country’s founding in 1901 until the mid-1970s.
It wasn’t until 1962 that Indigenous Australians could vote in Australian federal elections. Queensland became the last state to remove restrictions on Indigenous voting in state elections in 1965.
Colonial Australian ships scuttling from island to island brought back tens of thousands of people to toil on sugar and cotton plantations. Aboriginals and South Pacific Islanders were taken against their wills. Although some were released after three-year contracts, many went unpaid and toiled for decades.
Since the first colonists arrived, Aboriginal life has been difficult. “The Aborigines of Australia were faring little better than immigrants of color and slaves during the latter half of the 19th century. Sometimes hunted like animals, and often taken prisoner for minor offenses (both real and contrived), they were treated like chattel. . .
It wasn’t just people who identified as Australian who were trafficking in slavery during this period. Some of the most ruthless and successful enslavers were Americans who sold people (again under the guise of “indentured servitude”) to plantation owners who needed cheap or free labor in Fiji, Queensland, and New South Wales.”
Another Australian practice against its Indigenous people involves kidnapping the children.
See the documentary/drama: The Rabbit Proof Fence that tells the true story of three aboriginal girls who are forcibly taken from their families in 1931 to be trained as domestic servants as part of an official Australian government policy. They make a daring escape and embark on an epic 1,500 mile journey to get back home – following the rabbit-proof fence that bisects the Australian continent – with the authorities in hot pursuit.
Between the 1890s and 1970s, thousands of Aboriginal children were kidnapped from their parents by the Australian government and religious missions. Why? The two major reasons seem to be: for cheap labor and to breed out the black!😦😦 Many [Most?] of those children suffered terrible abuse and never saw their parents or relatives again.
Well, you might say, at least it stopped in the 1970s.
However, according to a 2014 news report in The Guardian, “The mass removal of Indigenous children from their parents continues unabated” –
“In 2012 the co-ordinator general of remote services for the Northern Territory, Olga Havnen, was sacked when she revealed that almost A$80m (£44m) was spent on the surveillance and removal of Aboriginal children compared with only A$500,000 (£275,000) on supporting the same impoverished families. She told me: “The primary reasons for removing children are welfare issues directly related to poverty and inequality. The impact is just horrendous because if they are not reunited within six months, it’s likely they won’t see each other again. If South Africa was doing this, there’d be an international outcry” . . .
Today, the theft of Aboriginal children – including babies taken from the birth table – is now more widespread than at any time during the last century. ”
For the whole article, go to –https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2014/mar/21/john-pilger-indigenous-australian-families
Australia may be a good place to live or visit if you are white, much like in the U.S.
However, its Indigenous people still suffer, and the future does not seem good for them.
But, it’s easy to criticize other countries.
Wherever we are, we can celebrate diversity; we can learn from each other. So, when in Cairns, be sure to go to Tjapukai; you will have fun while learning about the Aboriginal culture that has lived in harmony with the land for 50,000 years!
And if you are not in Cairns, look around. Inequality and injustice abound.
Who seems different from you? Find out about that person and his/her culture – then repeat. You will enjoy an enriched life, and the norm can/does change.
We are all a part of the whole.
Sad but hopeful, Renée
The 2016 Va’a World Sprints were held May 5-15 at Lake Kawana – about an hour outside Brisbane. Thirty-five countries and over 2,000 participants were involved in this international outrigger canoe event; I got to be there.
Take a look:
We had fun – and the crew I’m on for Kihei Canoe Club on Maui earned a silver medal! Highlights include:
The races at Lake Kawana and experiences near there –
The camaraderie was fantastic. On the last day of the World Sprints, we did t-shirt exchanges with other clubs. I got a club shirt from an Australian paddler, of course, one from a canoe club near Cairns, and another from Papa New Guinea (where I hope to go one day).
Our adventures continued near Lake Kawana and the Sunshine Coast:
Our fabulous Airbnb house in Buderim, about a 15-minute drive from Lake Kawana – if you don’t get lost – has six bedrooms, a theatre room, a billiard table, pool, sauna, and a fantastic view.
One of the challenges – besides racing – was driving in Australia – on the “wrong” side of the road. Audrey and I shared the driving and taking our housemates and crewmates around during the 10 days we were at the World Sprints. We often got lost – but we found the Australians very kind. I wanted us to have a big sign on the roof that said “American woman – stay away from me.” However, we made it without any accident or damage.
The next morning in Brisbane, we saw Roger, a Servas friend. Barry, John and I had stayed with him during a trip to Australia 13 years ago.
You may wonder why Denise is wearing a long coat in the 80 degree weather. The economy airlines in Australia such as Tiger Air and Jet Star charge for each bit of luggage over about 15 pounds that you haven’t paid for before you get to the airport. Your luggage, some found, can easily cost $500. Denise has prudently used the many pockets of her paddler coat, stuffing in heavy, useful necessities such as her computer.
After the World Sprints and our wonderful time there, some paddlers rushed off to return to Maui to work, but many of us left to discover more of Australia. Some went on cruises, some took bike trips, and some of us were on our way to Cairns.
See you mate, Renée