“Look in the mirror. The person you see is responsible for your happiness.” – Charles J. Orlando
“You are responsible for your own happiness. If you expect others to make you happy, you will always be disappointed.” LiveLifeHappy.com
Photos from https://unsplash.com/search/photos/mirror
“Sometimes our light goes out, but is blown again into instant flame by an encounter with another human being. Each of us owes the deepest thanks to those who have rekindled this inner light. ”
– Dr. Albert Schweitzer
Thank you my Friends, wherever you are, Renée
EVERYTHING IS WAITING FOR YOU
Your great mistake is to act the drama
as if you were alone. As if life
were a progressive and cunning crime
with no witness to the tiny hidden
transgressions. To feel abandoned is to deny
the intimacy of your surroundings. Surely,
even you, at times, have felt the grand array;
the swelling presence, and the chorus, crowding
out your solo voice You must note
the way the soap dish enables you,
or the window latch grants you freedom.
Alertness is the hidden discipline of familiarity.
The stairs are your mentor of things
to come, the doors have always been there
to frighten you and invite you,
and the tiny speaker in the phone
is your dream-ladder to divinity.
Put down the weight of your aloneness and ease into
the conversation. The kettle is singing
even as it pours you a drink, the cooking pots
have left their arrogant aloofness and
seen the good in you at last. All the birds
and creatures of the world are unutterably
themselves. Everything is waiting for you.
— David Whyte
from Everything is Waiting for You
©2003 Many Rivers Press
See David Whyte’s TED talk: https://www.ted.com/talks/david_whyte_a_lyrical_bridge_between_past_present_and_future
You are not alone.
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Other photos: RR
“To keep our faces toward change and behave like free spirits in the presence of fate is strength undefeatable.”
Ilana Fernandez, Psy. D. is mother of NINE children: seven step-children and two biological! She has experience raising children, “the best training of all.” Plus she earned a Doctorate of Psychology, practices psychotherapy, gives parenting classes and workshops, and trains other professions. Dr. Fernandez has written the best parenting book I have ever read. IF KIDS CAME WITH INSTRUCTIONS STEP #1 WOULD BE CHERISH YOUR CHILD EACH DAY IN SOME WAY has many practical and inspiring guidelines.
One of my favorite ideas is “Peace Talks.”
Ilana notes, “One of the more effective techniques I learned about helping children learn how to solve their own problems in a non-violent way was from a tape that my mom sent me from Canada by a parent educator named Barbara Calarosa. . . . I’ve come to call it peace talks. It is worth explaining to children that it is very much like what our world leaders do when they come together to solve their conflicts with one another.
- Siblings or fighting peers sit in chairs facing one another just out of kicking or reaching range. [Ilana’s experience with children shines through here].
- The main rule is neither person can get up from the chair until the other person says they can. This forces them to reach a consensus that they have at least made peace for the time being, if not an agreement.
- Usually one person is especially mad and they swear they aren’t going to let the other person up. Comments like “you can sit there until your face falls off for all I care” are common. The hitch is they can’t get up either until they let the person up. This leads, invariably, to a discussion of what the real problem is beneath the anger.
- They learn to communicate and problem solve and they are forced to listen and be heard by the other person. . . .
Hash it out until each is ready to let the other person up. You can at least model respectful language and talking from the heart” (129-131).
You can find out more about Dr. Ilana Fernandez at https://www.mauimetamorphosis.com/
Aloha – in peace & light, Renée
Sign next to Ms. Haas’ 3rd grade room at Kamali’i Elementary School, Kihei, HI
Good advice for us all no matter our age.
Aloha – in light & love, Renée
“We’re all sailing our ships on the same currents, some of us on yachts and some of us clinging to scraps of flotsam” – Greenburg
For those of us on yachts or even in canoes, we must show compassion. Let’s reach out wherever we are.
Quotation from – <https://www.thesunmagazine.org/issues/487/who-are-you-calling-crazy
P.S. My favorite boat to be in is this one:
But whatever our “boat,” we need to share and help others.
In a recent New York Times Opinion piece, environmentalist Bill McKibben, founder of 350.org, a group seeking to build clean solutions for the world’s energy needs, notes the possibility and importance of California state legislation.
“The State Senate passed a measure last year that would commit California, the world’s fifth-largest economy, to running on 100 percent clean energy by 2045. Now it is up to the Assembly to provide crucial leadership by passing that legislation, S.B. 100. If any place on earth can handle this transition, it’s California, home to some of the planet’s strongest sunshine and many of its finest clean-tech entrepreneurs.
Already, thanks to strong efforts at efficiency and conservation and the falling price of solar power, the average California household spends almost 50 percent less on energy than the average family in, say, Louisiana. But unless the Assembly passes S.B. 100 before the current session ends, much of that momentum will evaporate. After great organizing (including from my colleagues at 350.org chapters across the state), 72 percent of Californians back the bill; it’s now a test of confidence versus cravenness for members of the Assembly.
The governor, Jerry Brown, has been strangely quiet on S.B. 100, which is odd since it should be the no-brainer capstone to his clean-energy endeavors. After the governor’s years of leading efforts to deal with the demand side of the energy equation, activists are now also demanding he show equal attention to the supply side. His administration routinely grants new permits for oil and gas drilling, leading not only to more carbon emissions but also to drill rigs and derricks next to the houses, schools and hospitals of the state’s poorest residents: From rural Kern County to south-central Los Angeles, nearly 70 percent of the people living near wells are minorities. . . “
See the complete article at –
Aloha, Barry (and Renee)
P.S. Thanks, Sue for sending this article to us.
Image by: Mikey Burton
What you must see about “survivors” of the A-bombing of Hiroshima & Nagasaki. What you can do to promote peace and end war!
If you – and your elected officials – need another convincing reason to do everything possible to prevent another nuclear bombing, read Melinda Clarke’s book, Waymakers for Peace and if possible, go to her free talk on Saturday, August 4, 2018 at 1:30p.m. at the Nisei Veterans Memorial Center campus in Kahului, Maui. Call 808 244-6862 to make reservations or for more information.
Now a resident of Maui, Melinda Clarke first went to Japan in 1964 and then returned for many years. She saw her mission was to record what most people – especially in the U.S. – don’t really want to know. In her book of interviews, Waymakers for Peace, and in her talks, Clarke gives a a clear understanding of the devastation and suffering caused by a nuclear weapon (much less powerful than the ones we have today). Clarke also suggests what citizens can do to promote peace and end war.
On August 11, 2018, The Maui News featured an article by Lee Imada about Melinda Clarke and her experiences and mission. Go to http://www.mauinews.com/news/local-news/2018/08/maui-woman-tells-stories-of-atomic-bombing-at-hiroshima/
Clarke’s website can be found at http://www.worldaloha.net.
Clips of the original photographs (very troubling) We must work to make sure this never happens again. “Lost Generation” can be viewed at .https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IUv-wBK00eM&app=desktop