“A Break in the Web” – for Nate

Banner photo:  Nate at the top of Devil’s Tower – an arduous climb – and typical of a Nate adventure.

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Devils Tower in northeastern Wyoming – you can see that scaling this monolith would be an accomplishment!    Image: https://www.nps.gov/deto/index.htm

Nathan O’Kones (February 16, 1982 – June 7, 2018)  –  our friend, computer expert, a young man who valued integrity, loved nature and the ocean – and being “outside” the box.

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For Nate – poem by Shelby Kane & matting by Sherri Reeve  http://www.sreeve.com/

A Break in the Web

We grieve because we are a part

of one another

Connected by the golden thread

that binds us all

The absence of another is felt deeply

within our souls

We are displaced

when someone has departed

We don’t feel right,

we don’t feel centered

We lose our place and feel invalid

Whenever life’s flow is interrupted

The threads of our existence unravel

It is the others in our life

who weave us back together

Making us whole and strong once again

                                                                                           by Shelby Kane

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Nate – sailing in the Virgin Islands

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The life of a soul on earth lasts beyond his departure.

You will

always feel that life touching

yours,

that voice speaking to

you, that spirit looking out of

other eyes,

            talking to you in the

                        familiar things he touched,

                                  worked with,

                                            loved as familiar friends.

He lives on in your life and in the lives of all others that knew him.

                               – by Angelo Patri

 

***

Nate’s mom Barbara was here on Maui the last 12 days or so to finalize Nate’s responsibilities and material goods.  I feel blessed to get to know her – and Nate’s friends  we had never met.

Nate does live on.

Our son Johnny, who counted Nate as one of his best friends, planted an ulu tree, a tree that nourishes many (our “Nate” tree)  in our yard; we think Nate would like that.

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Nate’s glass tree plate – made by his beloved aunt

May we hold each other in the light.   As Ram Dass (& artist Sherri Reeve) say, “We are all just walking each other home.”

Our loss reminds us of the importance of each day and each person in our lives.

Aloha, Renee

Nate-at-sunset

We love you, Nate.

 

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About reneeriley

Our blog was begun as a way to share our experiences in China. From August 2010 to July 2011, my husband, Barry Kristel, and I were at our University of Hawaii Maui College sister school, Zhejiang Agriculture and Forestry University in Lin'an, China, a city considered rural because it has only 500,000 people! We had a wonderful time. Then in February 2012, we returned to teach this time at our other sister school, Shanghai Normal University, in a city of over 21 million people. We've made many discoveries. Did you know that now Chinese girls, at least the ones who go to university, for the most part feel they are luckier than the Chinese boys? Did you know that Shanghai saved over 20,000 European Jews during WWII? Do you know how Chinese university students would deal with problems that come up in Dear Abby letters? What's it like to be on the Great Wall of China? Do you know how many Chinese girls had their feet bound and why? And we have recipes from many of the places we've visited. Among others, you can find instructions on how to fry cicadas from one of my ZAFU students and how to make chocolate-Kahlua waffles from my brother Mike in Gainesville. You can also look back to our earliest entry to see what we experienced in Oaxaca, Mexico, in 2006 during the mainly peaceful six months of protest until the Mexican government sent in the troops. Between our stays in China, Barry and I have been on the Mainland U.S. visiting family, friends and Servas hosts as we traveled home to Maui. We share those experiences too. Welcome to our blog! Aloha and Zài Jiàn, Renée and Barry

4 responses to ““A Break in the Web” – for Nate”

  1. Rosita says :

    beautiful story.. I didn’t know Nate, but I’m sure his mission was to explore world as well as nurture and cherish ppl’s soul. RIP Nate 🙏🏼 I’m sure he’d be glad if y’all kept traveling and being environmentally sustainable, my dear Barry and Renee. BTW, have urs installed InstaGram yet? Or has Google Hangouts?

    With love,
    R.

  2. nicegirlsmanifesto says :

    Hi Renee, I’m an old friend of Nate’s from St. Thomas. I just wanted you to know that I appreciated your “break in the web” for Nate. I also love knowing his spirit lives on in your Nate tree. Thank you for sharing your beautiful words and pictures.

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